Stop Being Miserable – Be Happy

Happiness and wellbeing. 

Lots of things can put a smile on your face in the short term without giving you any lasting happiness. Getting a wage rise , seeing your team win the local derby, a good night out with your mates, the Friday before breaking  for your holiday, and whatever else floats your boat.

Trouble is but most pleasure is short-term and often you return to feeling as you did before. Some people seem to have everything; plenty of money, stunning girl,  maybe great and a  the family, cool friends,  exotic holidays,  great home, but still have a face like a slapped a***.

Then you get others maybe working crap jobs on crap wages on a supermarket checkout who always have a smile on their face and never a bad word to say about anyone. So yeah some people are natural bright,  breezy and upbeat whilst others are miserable bastards, and that might be down to what psychologists call the happiness set point.  But beyond that set point there is a lot you can do to put a kick in your step.

Blokesnet is here  to give practical advice based on research to give us a better life. Happiness might be more useful thought of the general feeling of well-being fulfilment and contentment, even if life is always going to have there may be some tricky parts, some boring bits and some hard work along the way. So let’s look at some things that really make us feel that life is worth living.

  • A sense of purpose
  • A sense of achievement
  • Being really absorbed in some worthwhile activity
  • Exercise
  • Healthy personal relationships
  • Being around family or friends

For a great resource on the subject you cant’s go far wrong with the work of Sonja Lyubomirsky, a Professor of Psychology at the University of California. Her book The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want is a no nonsense approach based on research rather than some of the airy fairy, wishful thinking garbage that’s out there.

Check out her website and blog here.