Uncertainty and Stress – Get a Grip


Uncertainty is around us every day in this modern world: the effects of Brexit, the election of Donald Trump, the threat of terrorism. Or maybe you are affected more by the uncertainty of day to day life: money shortages, a relationship turning a bit sour, or a health scare, or job insecurity or looming unemployment. The list goes on.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,Courage to change the things I can,And wisdom to know the difference. Reinhold Niebuhr.

On thing is for sure; if it not dealt with effectively, uncertainty can lead to stress, lack of sleep, fuzzy thinking, or too much drink or food.  Best to get a grip, so here are some strategies.

Strategies with impact

  1. Concentrate on the things you have direct influence or control over (see Serenity Prayer above). Worrying aboutwhat you cant change is totally pointless but by acting within your circle of influence you can gain a sense of control, and maybe a good night’s sleep. Is there a threat of lay offs in your workplace? Well just concentrate on doing your own job well!
  2. Make a plan and take action! If there is something that can help you move forward then do it. Even writing some possible options down and making some progress on one or two of them will lift some weight off your shoulders. Maybe you need to learn some new skills, or visit the doctor, or start   saving a bit of money each month.
  3. Don’t indulge in a spiral of negative thoughts  and ‘What if?’ thinking. If you find yourself being effected by such thoughts, then remember that they are just thought. Mentally turn them into footballs and kick them into touch!
  4. Try some stress management techniques –  breath deeply, exercise, practise mindfulness or meditation, take a hot bath, go for a long walk, listen to music – whatever is best for you. There is so much out there on the Internet to help. Use it.
  5. Talk to people. We blokes have a tenancy to bottle stuff up and let it eat away. Talk to friends or family, or your partner, or a doctor. Join  a forum or seek professional help if you need it. A problem shared does not need to be a pain in the arse!
  6. Keep a journal – putting it down on paper can be a release, and might even give you a laugh in the future.
“My life has been filled with terrible misfortune; most of which never happened.” Michel de Montaigne

Leave a constructive comment or idea –  it’s a certainty that they will be welcome!

Stop Being Miserable – Be Happy

Happiness and wellbeing. 

Lots of things can put a smile on your face in the short term without giving you any lasting happiness. Getting a wage rise , seeing your team win the local derby, a good night out with your mates, the Friday before breaking  for your holiday, and whatever else floats your boat.

Trouble is but most pleasure is short-term and often you return to feeling as you did before. Some people seem to have everything; plenty of money, stunning girl,  maybe great and a  the family, cool friends,  exotic holidays,  great home, but still have a face like a slapped a***.

Then you get others maybe working crap jobs on crap wages on a supermarket checkout who always have a smile on their face and never a bad word to say about anyone. So yeah some people are natural bright,  breezy and upbeat whilst others are miserable bastards, and that might be down to what psychologists call the happiness set point.  But beyond that set point there is a lot you can do to put a kick in your step.

Blokesnet is here  to give practical advice based on research to give us a better life. Happiness might be more useful thought of the general feeling of well-being fulfilment and contentment, even if life is always going to have there may be some tricky parts, some boring bits and some hard work along the way. So let’s look at some things that really make us feel that life is worth living.

  • A sense of purpose
  • A sense of achievement
  • Being really absorbed in some worthwhile activity
  • Exercise
  • Healthy personal relationships
  • Being around family or friends

For a great resource on the subject you cant’s go far wrong with the work of Sonja Lyubomirsky, a Professor of Psychology at the University of California. Her book The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want is a no nonsense approach based on research rather than some of the airy fairy, wishful thinking garbage that’s out there.

Check out her website and blog here.